What Is Your Excuse For Not Having A Relationship With God Right Now?

The Answer:

I went through… and was hurt by the church or a person, and so I am where I am, or I am who I am because of this situation or those people.

And because nothing was ever fixed or healed, because you and I, or that person, went through something without “proof” that God was in the midst of our created trauma, we then assume that God is to blame for the troubles in our lives. So, we put Him in a time-out from our lives that He did not deserve. Because we find ourselves in situations where we wonder where God is or why He has not put an end to the church people who fail time and time again by misusing their titles and hurting their own people, we tend to wash our hands of God and walk away from Him completely.

One thing I never understood though, is why we feel like we can walk away from God because of our experiences in life with other “believers” thinking that we can make it on our own by living in sin that causes drastically more damage to our mind, body, and souls leading to a continuing ripple effect of brokenness and trauma beyond just you, but also the next generation.

It’s easy to blame God for the broken people in this world who need Him just as much as you. It’s easy to blame God for where you are in your life and why you are the person you are today. It’s very easy to be ungrateful and to fall into a victim mentality when nothing has gone your way, like in a fairytale. So, you decide to go against Him because, ultimately, it must be God’s fault that your life is not perfectly made in your image…

BUT,

That is far from true with everything. God, your Heavenly Father, has always been with you. He has NEVER departed from His children. He has never left nor forsaken you.

In the end, most of it was from you. From us.

 We need to reach a place where we take responsibility for our lives. The lives that God allowed us to live with free will. Though there is free will, just like any good parent, there are consequences to any choice you make regarding sin. Free will that WE, YOU, have CHOSEN to partake in. We blame God for the sinners in church and walk away altogether, yet when your friends in the world hurt you, when your spouse, co-worker, or boss cheats you. When you have encountered a bad batch of drugs or relapsed on alcohol… You don’t walk away from all of those bad experiences that have caused trauma and even ongoing damage the way you have easily walked away from God. NO! Instead, you keep company with the sin and allow it to become your temporary comfort of substance and abuse it further. (And let me remind you, I have been a part of this category in certain seasons of my life as well, until I had to choose between my Savior’s love and my love for the substance that I had abused. I even told God after my daddy had passed away that I needed time to myself and that I didn’t want Him to leave me. Still, I just needed to distract myself for the first time by doing something bad that I later regretted, and nearly harmed myself after the damage it did to me mentally.) So, I get it.