Life Partners Q&A: Should I Marry…?

A four-letter word that people tend to yearn for is love. We all have a different view of what that looks like, but from past or new experiences, we all know that butterfly feeling that can make a person plan their whole life with their significant other. Once you and your partner have shared deep intimate relations, a new stage appears in a question like this.

“Would you marry me?”

Your first reaction may be to immediately say yes because of the natural high that love gives you, but in reality, you and your partner need to ask each other some questions that we all try to avoid until we’re married questioning life decisions.

I have listed a few questions that I hope you and your partner ask each other before making a huge decision to become one for the rest of each other’s lives. 

 

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 Q&A

• • What are you and your spouse’s moral beliefs?
    • • Do yall share the same faith?
    • • If you and your spouse do not share the same religious background, would that be a conflict in yalls marriage or raising children?

• • Why do you want to marry your spouse?

• • What is your definition of a good husband or wife?

• • What is your definition of a good marriage?

• • What do you want to gain from your marriage?

• • What do you and your spouse want in yalls marriage?

• • What originally attracted you to your spouse, vice versa?

• • What are some ways that you and your husband are alike / different? (List them if you can)
    • • How can you use each other’s differences and similarities to help each other?

• • What are your plans for the future?
    • • Do yall both want kids, how many?
    • • How will you raise yalls children? Is daycare involved or do yall see one parent staying home while the other one works?
    • • Do you agree with disciplining your children? How do you see yourself discipling your kids?

• • Who manages the finances in the house?
    • • How?

• • What are your career plans?
    • • How are yall going to take care of desired life expenses?

• • Have yall discussed each other’s financial issues (such as debt, or past issues)?
    • • Have you paid off everything? (If not, how do you plan to take care of your debt)?

• • Is there a plan on filing taxes together or separate?

• • Are you considering sharing bank accounts or keeping things separate?

• • After everything is paid off for the month, what do yall do with yalls spare money?

• •  Where do you see you and your spouse 30 years from now, or further in the future?

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The Q&A list above brings awareness that the butterfly stage in relationships tends to get interrupted by reality (such as hardship). The goal is that you and your partner can discuss real issues with solutions and awareness of many scenarios that could happen and navigate through them together before walking down the aisle and saying, “I Do”!