How to Experience Alone Time with God

You’ve found it! The peace you’ve been seeking is not a coincidence that you stumbled upon this article. You’ve been on a journey, searching for answers, and perhaps God is using this to speak to you. You’re not alone in this quest for peace.

Let me get started.

Have you been in a place where you feel like the world has run you down and what life has been throwing at you left and right? You may feel as if your overload has overstimulated you like a newborn baby missing naps and bottles yet passed from one stranger’s hand to another with no soothing for themselves, yet satisfaction and joy that they bring to others. Who knew that you could be at your end wits with everything so suddenly? Now, you are searching for just an ounce of help in high and low places. Sister, you are not here by mistake. You are here because your whole being needs a break from everyone, including yourself. Yes, even your worldly, busy, and overstimulated mind needs a break from all you have pressed down in your head, body, and soul.

Dear sister, what you genuinely need is alone time with God.

It’s time to shut out the world and focus on the most crucial relationship in your life: God. I’m here to share some tips on how to experience this alone time and why it’s vital for your spiritual growth.

Get Alone

Did you know that alone time is good for you? We learn in church and, even for people in the world, understand that we need to fellowship and socialize and be on the move, spreading the gospel outside our doors, but no one talks about what is inside your house behind those closed doors at night. Not just the inside of your home but the inside of your mind, body, and soul. You may question what is hidden behind those doors, beyond fellowship, which is good also to maintain. Alone time is just as crucial to your body as well.  You can meet yourself again this time and allow God our Father to meet you there, too. It is an intimate time for you and God as you grow your relationship more substantially than the day before. This moment is when you can breathe and not feel interrupted by the world. It’s a time for self-care, rejuvenation, and reminding yourself that you are important and valued.

It is okay to have your time to yourself, too! Did you know that because Jesus was a much-needed Savior, everyone always expected Him to perform miracles and be everywhere for them? Yes, even Jesus was expected to do many things for strangers day and night, yet Jesus knew He needed alone time, too. He managed to be everywhere and do what our Father called Him to do, but Jesus sometimes had to flee from people just because He knew He needed time with God as well. And guess what? Jesus had to escape from even his disciples to be alone with God.

Jesus Prays in a Solitary Place

“Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.”

Mark 1:35

 

“Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”

Mark 6:31

I know you are a daughter of our Father above, but please do not think you are exempt from needing time alone with God. It may not seem possible for a person who everyone around them needs, but it is manageable when you take firm action and set time alone for yourself, even if it’s just a 30-minute to an hour session. If you have little ones who are early birds or may even have teens who need to get to school early, or you need to leave the house at a particular time for work, try going to sleep early and waking up 1 hour before your original alarm and spend time with God. I promise it might seem like a sacrifice of sleep, but when you wake up alone with God and spend your first hour with him, it changes the trajectory of your day with everyone else around.

Redirect Focus

Often, Christians go to church, pray, or worship with their thoughts focused on their problems rather than God. We weep and mourn our issues, allowing us to continue focusing on them and seeking advice instead of seeking God’s presence and His message for us.

I want you to try something new today. If there is anything on your chest and you need to let out some tears or energy, do it before getting to your quiet place. Let it all out to be ready to focus on God. Then, try seeking God and inviting the Holy Spirit into your time with Him.

This alone time is supposed to be about growing your relationship with your Heavenly Father, getting to know Him, and being in awe of Him.

“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”

Matthew 5:23-24

Reading

Reading God’s word is one of the best ways to grow your relationship with Him.

Question: Have you ever had a crush on someone so much that you studied their bio to see if the crush stage would go anywhere? Or you may be married. Have you ever craved for your husband to notice things about you, whether physical, mental, or attributes you have offered to the relationship and family? Or you crave that your husband was into you more than where y’all stand now, and you are yearning for his affection and attention.

I like to believe that the same tug about your husband’s affection towards you is the same feeling you inwardly have for God, and vice versa. Let me go further. So, imagine yourself in a place where all you want from your spouse is to feel loved and secure and comforted by them because they are supposed to love you enough to show those qualities 24/7, yet, as they are merely humans; they tend to disappoint you when they fail time to time. Now, you are in a place where you are seeking love already given to you. You may even seek guidance that is freely given to you. But most importantly, you’re seeking to be saved when you have already been saved by our Lord and Savior.

Now that you may have let that last part seek into your inner core, I would like to suggest to you the same energy, time, and investment that you put into your worldly relationships; I ask that you shift that astonishing effort to your relationship with God. Again, He has made a way for you to have a healthy, open relationship with you in every way. He has given you His word that guides you through life and informs you of who He is. A constant, never-changing God biography covering thousands of pages of His characteristics, personality, and encounters with other people. Reading His Word, you will be revealed that He sent His ONLY son to be a walking example of being like God, who He has already declared that we are made in His image. We also see in His Word and through experience that we are given an advocator and guide through the Holy Spirit who works in many ways, living daily with us and growing us.

Now, let me tell you. Of all the relationships you will ever have, your relationship with God is the only one for which you must be willing to sacrifice everything to maintain a healthy form. Making time for Him as you do with everyone is life itself. Please open up and read your bible. When you find out who you truly are in Christ and can read and realize who your Daddy is, who makes sure that nothing is against you because He is for you, it will change your perception in life. When you read, you write down what He has spoken to you directly with revelation, and you say those scriptures through prayer and your daily form of language to people as you converse because those words from scripture will be truth being declared against all things.

Remember who you are!

Prayer

Have you ever been in a moment where you had so much emotion inside of you from triggers, scars, memories, and just about anything that has brought you to a place of crying out to God, yet you felt like you did not have the right words to say? Did you fall into silence with so much bearing in your body? Trust me, you are not alone in that experience, but your experience may be different. You may be new to this lifestyle change of setting the tone and moment and are still pondering where to start. As they say, sometimes, in your silence, you are still speaking. The thing about God is that He knows your heart. He knows what you are dealing with. He knows what you need even when you don’t, and that is why it is vital to welcome the Holy Spirit into your home, life, and encounter that you are trying to create with God because, as it says in Romans 8:26, the Holy Spirit intercedes for us speaking what ought to be prayed out, not just something that we want, not realizing the differences between our wants and needs.

“In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.”

Romans 8:26

I will suggest again that when you pray, remember to combat your prayers and declaration with truth from the Word of God. This means speaking scriptures, the living, breathing Word of Life, which is God, in your prayers that you are reminded of the truth and speaking authority that God has given you through that truth of knowledge and wisdom.

Worship

Worship is one of the best feelings that your body can experience here on earth. There are many forms to worshiping God, but in your alone time with Him, make your worship encounter a priority of your entire effort and release every gratitude you can offer God. As I mentioned above, there are times when we might attend church with hostile emotions towards people or an event before service that can have us on our knees crying over the situation rather than giving God His total praise during worship. Let me remind you that worshiping God is praising God for who He is and is a time for thanksgiving. Allow yourself during your alone time to let out everything festering in you so that before you worship, you can go into worship with a joyful heart and praise Him.

 

“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”

Matthew 5:23-24

 

“Come, let us sing for joy to the Lord; let us shout aloud to the Rock of our salvation.

 Let us come before him with thanksgiving and extol him with music and song.

 For the Lord is the great God, the great King above all gods.

 In his hand are the depths of the earth, and the mountain peaks belong to him.

The sea is his, for he made it, and his hands formed the dry land.

Come, let us bow down in worship, let us kneel before the Lord our Maker.”

Pslam 95:6

 

“God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.”

John 4:24

 

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.”

Romans 12:1

Be Still

It is so easy to get caught up in this fast-paced world, busily moving from one place to another. You are not focused on anything because you multitask; let me change that to quadruple-tasking, which is everything you can do. You try to remind yourself to take a break after you finish that one task, only to find yourself taking care of four more tasks while tackling that last task on your “to-do list.” In this action, sister, you have not even realized that you have missed lunch, a water break, and a chance to breathe, all to suddenly feel an outburst of emotions from not taking a break. You have now reached burnout, and in the process, you are moody, too. Let us not stop there. Let us turn up the heat a notch and add that you managed not to finish anything at home or work, so you decide to carry the load of tasks to your safe heaven time where you are supposed to be off the clock from everything and relaxing, all to find yourself buried in deep of work that has taken over now your peace and life itself.

If you read that, even as a stay-at-home mother, it made you feel some way internally, questioning, “Well, when will it get done?” or “If I don’t do it at the time, then who will, because it will never get done?” Then this is for you. You, sister, need to sit down and breathe and realize that you are not God, and the world does not need to feel like the weight is on your shoulders. For even God created the world and knew that He needed rest on the seventh day.

“By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.”

Genesis 2:2-3

Never allow yourself to pile more on your plate than necessary, which will interfere with your off days. During your off days, you can be firm in committing time to God. If you allow yourself to, you can dedicate a date hour, half-day, or even a whole day to God. Even for you mamas who are doing it alone (single mothers & stay-at-home wives), find the resources you need to make your time alone with God an essential need because you need it. You need that moment to STOP what you are doing and just be still. Even without words and music playing, this includes the thoughts in your brain. You must be able to sit there in peace and silence with God. Allow yourself to be in a place with your Father, and you just want to chill with His presence without asking and expecting anything in return.

Reclaim your time for moments of stillness in this chaotic world. Just be there. Be present with God!

“Be still, and know that I am God.”

 Psalm 46:10

In the end, sister, I pray that you will see to it making your alone time with God a daily priority. I pray that God will allow you to receive the strength and energy to wake up early or stay up a little more before bedtime to rekindle your relationship with Him and grow more intimate and vital. I hope that the people in your life will see and honor the changes that you are making so that you can become a healthier version of yourself. In doing so, they will see that your changes in prioritizing your alone time with your Father will make you a healthy, beneficial person to be around your loved ones. Sister, I pray over your journey and life that you will see it as a good life that He, our good Father, has given freely to you. May God flourish through your mind, body, and soul with His Spirit and purify your heart. May His desires be won over and submitted to as you honor Him daily. God bless you, sister, in Jesus name, Amen.