12 People Who Should Be In Your Corner

 

People!

What can I say? You can’t live with some, and you can’t live without them.

 The ones that you cannot live without are the needed people that will help you grow and prosper. In discovering your needed circle of people, you must first profoundly self-reflect and evaluate the people you already have in your corner. Who are they, and how do they serve you?

In the re-evaluating stage, you may see people who have overstayed their seasonal position and need to be removed, depending on toxicity and what God has already revealed about the person. Remember, God’s guidance is always there to help you make these decisions. They may also need to be put in another category where they are still there but will not hinder your growth.

It may be challenging to build boundaries for the friends and family who bring drama and stress that hinder you and lack the uplifting positivity you need to grow. Still, it is necessary to give them boundaries of space. Remember, you are in control of your life, and it’s essential to keep or seek people who will help you grow and flourish in every area of your life.

Let’s start with the 12 people you need in your corner to grow into the woman you are destined to be.

1. Discipleship

Walking this world as a child of God, let alone a woman of God, can be challenging when navigating what a woman of God is supposed to be. How should she conduct herself? What does her lifestyle look like?

You may not even know where to start in living out the identity God has created you to be. Sister, whether you are a single woman, married, or even a mother, you will always need help in new areas as you walk this new journey through every stage life presents to you for the first time.

Find someone who can relate to you, whether single, married, or a mother, and find that God-fearing woman you know with complete confidence that she is a walk of beauty after God’s heart. Pray to God that he will send you someone who will disciple you into the woman that you are created to be, a disciple who can support you and encourage your spiritual nature and lifestyle. You need that sister who will pray for and with you. It would be best to have someone who may understand where you are coming from spiritually when you face trials.

When you reach a point in your life when you are fully surrendered and transformed in the Spirit of God, find someone you can discipline as you are still disciplined.

Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him.  Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.

John 13:14-17

Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

Matthew 28:19-20

 

 

2. Mentor

A mentor is an experienced person who helps someone with little experience in a particular area who needs help or is willing to help you in all areas of your life, like a life coach. Mentors advise, instruct, and guide you in the direction you need to go.  Their knowledge through experience can ease your worries and be a great source of help.  

3. The Supporter

Life will have its ups and downs, but everyone needs that one person to support them in the dark days. Maybe they are not so dark, but challenging days where you need a reach-out person to be there for you with care and support. These loving people will comfort you. They will ask questions, listen, and validate how you are feeling. Whether you are going through it or they know a lot about you, they will contact you. And they will have resources to help you if they feel you need it. Your supporter friend is highly aware, and though they are not counselors (unless you find it helpful to go to counseling), know that you are not alone. They are there thinking about you.

Please know that if they are not counselors, then try to respectfully pray for them as they choose to carry the cross for you with the weight of your burdens, and for sure, go to God first before encountering them.

4. The Believer

Sometimes, it can be the closest family and friends doubt that can keep you in a place that is unfortunately not where you belong. If your family and friends never had ambition, never saw a light of hope or a way out of the generational lifestyle that they have been a part of, or even if they did not live out their dreams, their disappointments and reality from a failed experience could be negatively expressed in words and actions towards you and your plans and desires.  Because they did not make it out and become who they wanted to become with the lifestyle they dreamed of, they will try to take it out on you. Don’t get me wrong; you love them and wish they could believe in you and that you would succeed, but sometimes you must share some areas of your life with others who believe in you. Without a doubt, these believers know another side of you, hear your passion, see your dedication, and know that you are the one who is different and will succeed no matter what. You need your believers, sister! They will make you believe more about yourself and help you overcome any unexpected obstacle; with their belief, you will exceed your expectations.

5. The cheerleader

Everyone loves a cheerleader. They are so peppy and upbeat! When you are determined to reach a goal or overcome any challenge that you are facing, cheerleaders are like believers, but they are very enthusiastic and will cheer you on, putting you in good spirits! Can you imagine the motivation and energy around you to keep you going? Say thank you if your cheerleader is a parent, spouse, or friend.

6. The Character Builder

Your character is what people judge off the back and what is spoken about when you are lying in your last bed at your funeral. What is said about you shows the kind of person you are.

So, who are you exactly? What would people say about you behind your back or at your going-away celebration? Is it good?

If you question the kind of person you are and find certain qualities you do not like about your character, change while you are still alive! Sometimes, “birds a feather flock together” should end, especially if your flock is not genuinely what you want your image to look like. That is when you can peer with a group or person that is ideally an inspiration you can look up to and grow with some inspired new qualities. The goal is not to be the person who inspires you but to be moved in such ways that it has you reflecting your character and wanting to change to be better.

*By the way, If you could choose to be anyone, then be like Christ all day, and you cannot go wrong from there!

7. Co-achiever (someone who is also striving to do good)

Don’t you love it when you start a new journey and find out that someone you know is also beginning something new in their life? This may look like two people starting their own business or creating a new lifestyle by becoming healthy. Having someone who can relate to your current life choice of a new journey can be fun and helpful as you share goals, motivate each other, brainstorm ideas, and celebrate accomplished challenges.

8. Accountability Buddy

Accountability buddies are beneficial if you tend to have commitment issues when completing tasks. They hold you accountable for projects you have started and will keep you focused and on track to finish what you have started.

Ensure your buddy assisting you is more determined than you could imagine. Be honest about your insecurities and reasons for downfalls in past failures, and see if the buddy is qualified to help you break old habits when achieving your goals. They are working for you and with you. Whether paid or not, they need to be stern and dedicated so that you can receive the results you desire overall.

* If you are both on the same journey and that person is stern, you could use a co-achiever as a buddy.

9. The Connector

Connectors are extroverts known to be social butterflies and usually know everybody. They are a great source if you are an introvert, new to an area or job, or are creating a business or organization. They will know someone who knows someone and can help you talk to the right people so that you can engage and have a broad group of new and valuable connections. What a great way to open and engage with these beautiful butterflies! When you have a connector who is excellent at being them and helping you out, do not hesitate to plan a lunch date to know who they are and show your appreciation. Do not feel rejected if their schedule cannot fit you in immediately; they are usually busybodies.

10. Fun friend

Life is good overall; have fun! Make sure you have that one friend you can feel free and loose with. Whomever that may be, make time for yourself just to let go of all the weight that you carried for the week and make memories with good people—or alone, if you prefer it that way.

 

11. Fitness enthusiasts

Yes, I said it! Even if you think you are healthy by image, you need an overall body health partner! This person will give you the ins and outs of improving your health. They will include you in joining them at the gym and nature walks and ensure you maintain a good diet for a better, healthier, long-lasting life. Cherish this person who wants what is best for you.

 

12. The Divergent

A divergent person will not allow you to settle for a mediocre life. This person will be unbiased and will push you out of your comfort zone from time to time. Divergent people are needed by people who seem to live strictly in a closed box and are strictly one-sided in their way of life. A divergent person will take this strict person and challenge them with new, fresh perspectives.

I advise that if you find a divergent who is spiritually different from you and makes you question your beliefs because of their broad mindset, part ways with them unless God tells you to keep that person in your corner. Let them remain if you can stand firm in your identity and feel like God is pulling you close to show your life in Christ and speak the truth to them. Be cautious and steadfast in prayer with every person you keep in your corner, especially them.